Venus shows us what we love, what makes us fall in love, how we express our love, and what we're looking for in romantic relationships and friendships.
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Venus in Aries has a fiery and passionate nature in love, and a raw, erotic sensuality. These feisty folks have an aggressive approach to love, and always dive in head first. They don't do slow. If you have fallen for this fireball of a human, make sure to remain a mystery to keep their fires burning. These hotties are attracted to the cool and aloof, and as long they are the one doing most of the chasing, and they're never bored, you may just get to be the object of their obsession. These folks can deceive themselves if they don't accept their animal nature and their intrinsic need to be the hunter. They are on Team Passion.
Their style is fierce, hot, and eccentric. They want to boldly go where no one has gone before. (Think, Lady Gaga's meat dress.) They love to shock. They can be superficial, but this is only because they are truly inhabiting their bodies and their animal nature more than most. They value the physical body above all because of this inherent focus on the power of the raw energy of the body.
Venus in Taurus lovers live in a sensual world. Taurus is earth in the body, and these folks are in their bodies. They wear the best quality fabrics, love the finest gourmet food, and want a super comfy home to enjoy life’s sensual pleasures in. They can either be high-end luxury lovers or they’ll be on the other end of the spectrum, the biggest hippies, luxuriating in all the bounty that nature has to offer. Either way, what's at the root of this energy is an appreciation for the quality of "the stuff of life". These sensual beings have both feet on the ground, and usually make smart practical decisions so they can have the quality of life they desire. They are on Team Practical, of course.
This steady sexy beast is slow to truly love, and slow to let go as well. They want a committed, sensual partnership and a stable and luxurious home. They choose their partners like they would a fine wine. They are steady and loyal partners, and demand that you be the same. When feeling insecure, they can behave possessively, seeing their partner as property and treating them as such. They are very tactile, and need regular physical attention. They probably prefer not wearing makeup, and usually feel the same way about their bodies too...they're the most comfortable naked.
Venus in Gemini is so much fun to hang out with. These playful souls are super social, witty, and smart. They are open minded and curious in love, and can only truly fall for someone’s mind. They have a brilliant sense of humor, and always have the best witty comebacks. This wordsmith is excellent at any kind of word games. They love a good story or a fun piece of gossip. Gossip is just truth sharing, right? These sparkly creatures are fun and playful, and also need their freedom, so it's important to let these social butterflies fly. They are on Team Freedom.
These smart cookies need mental stimulation first and foremost in their relationships. They take in every little detail of their surroundings, so they also need occasional breaks from that stimulation they crave. They make the best friends, and really need their friend time more than any other Venus sign. They're not judgmental of their friends. In fact, they really appreciate all the unique differences in everyone. They love variety, and are always up for any kind of fun. They are great travel partners, easy going and fun, and they'll tell you jokes the whole way there.
Venus in Cancer is sensitive, emotional and intuitive in love. They completely melt when they fall in love and truly commit their heart to their loved one. They are incredibly sentimental, and love right from their heart. As long as their heart feels safe with the one they love, they will shower them continuously with love and affection. They love to take care of their sweethearts, and will likely want to make dinner for them...and more often than not can work some magic in the kitchen. But if cooking is not their way of nurturing, they'll definitely have other ways of taking care of their sweethearts. They are on Team Heart.
They show their love through nurturing, and even when they're busy with all the other aspects of life, their number one goal is to have reliable and cozy, domestic bliss at home. In their darkest days they can be moody, pouty or needy, but this is likely because they're not feeling safe in the relationship. When they feel completely safe, they are capable of lasting loyalty, and wouldn’t dream of hurting their loved ones. If this sweetheart has fallen for you, be delicate with this sensitive heart. If you notice and appreciate all they do for you, they will be forever yours.
Venus in Leo, I call you The Diva so lovingly. Even the most altruistic Venus in Leos still have to admit that The Diva is in there a little. Don’t look directly at these fiercely hot creatures, or you’ll be blinded by their fabulousness. These hotties want to be adored, and of course, they usually are. These big cats need an incredibly affectionate partner, someone who will lavish them with regular praise and pets. They are warm, generous, dramatic, and need passion in their love lives. They are on Team Passion, of course.
These wild animals have desires that they just can’t control, and they usually don't seem to care who else is around to witness. They don't mind public displays of affection, in fact they may even love it. They probably don't notice much other than how gorgeous their lover's eyes are. They want to be the focus of every drop of your passion, and this one does not want to share you. If they are insecure in a relationship they can be more jealous than any of the other Venus signs. These fiery creatures are hot heads, led by their passion in all their realtions. If you're seeing a solar flare coming off of these hotties, just remember that it is what these animals do. Try to stay cool and let them blow off steam, and they'll be wrapped around you again in minutes.
Venus in Virgo does it all. They can run their own business, take care of the kids, and still look perfect for date night. Their style is always so perfectly put together and understated. It’s amazing that they have time for themselves when they spend so much of time taking care of their loved ones. They may not wax poetic about their love for you for hours on end, but they’ll be there for you when you need them. They are on Team Practical.
They will always make sure you’re taken care of. They’ll do sweet things for you, like leave little love-notes on post-its in your sock drawer, and if they're in a good mood they may even clean up your sock drawer. They know how to do it better anyway. They will likely show you the "right" way to fold towels or do other domestic chores. Side note: I've never met a Venus in Virgo that wasn't slightly obsessed with vacuuming. They'll make you dinner, help you clean out your closet, run errands for you, and basically be the perfect partner. But don’t expect for a second that you can slack off with this super efficient, type A partner. They expect you to have it all together too.
Venus in Libra loves love. Venus is at home in lovely Libra where love is more of an ideal of harmony, romance and partnership. They are on Team Freedom even though they may not seem like it because they love to partner up. But they need their freedom to be the social creature they are. They thrive with their friends, sharing thoughts, ideas and dreams. They believe in the ultimate ideal of love.
Their style is always lovely, classy and symmetrical with just a drop of boundary pushing. They are always looking for new ways to express beauty. Beauty is an art to these lovely souls. They may like to talk everything through with you and ask your opinion on new projects, but don’t be fooled into thinking that they need your help. They can do it all on their own. They just want to include you in everything. They make incredible friends, and will be there to offer you something beautiful when you need some inspiration.
Venus in Scorpio will only give their heart to someone when they know they are the one. And then they will love them with the deepest and most ultimate devotion until they die. They need someone who is intensely affectionate, and not afraid of love. Love is a transcendent experience for them, and they're not going to go there with just anyone. They want someone who can commit with the same depth and intensity that they do, and who’s not afraid of emotional intimacy. They need to know that their love will be met with profound authenticity and constancy. They are on Team Heart.
They are so magnetic that if you’re in their general vicinity you may be in danger of losing all self control. Seriously. Conversely, this deep soul can sometimes let their passions lead them into entanglements with “the bad guy or girl”, which can be a destructive obsession. They truly are a magnet, so they must be more conscious than most about what they are magnetizing to them. They sexy folks hold a powerful magic in their love.
Venus in Sagittarius has the best sense of humor! And they love any form of travel! You wanna go for a hike? Surfing? To Peru? They’ll lead the way and make you pee your pants telling you stories while you sail all around the world. They obviously need a partner with a great sense of humor as well. They have an innocent, childlike and playful approach to love, and go in with pretty high hopes and expectations. They are on Team Passion.
When they were younger they may have been a little naive about some people’s hidden motives in relationships. Trust is huge for them in relationships. They can’t lie and will expect you to be completely truthful, so don’t even think of lying to them! Even doubting their own honesty could hurt them deeply. This adventurer is always ready for travel, and usually has an awesome pair of legs to carry them on her journeys. They love all forms of travel…planes, boats, feet, a surfboard. Just keep playfully travelling through life with them and you’ll keep their heart. They are often quite an animal lover, so be prepared to find fuzz or fur traveling along with the two of you!
Venus in Capricorn rules. Literally. This one has it all together, or wants to. The Queen or King is strong, confident, and ready to take on the world. They approach relationships with a detatched air of self control, understanding the gravity and seriousness of love. They want a partner who is just as ambitious, hard working and responsible as they are. If you want this tough cookie to love you, prepare to have it more together than they do, because they are picky when it comes to falling in love. They are creating a royal team here. They are on Team Practical.
In addition to this big shot reviewing your resume, physical attraction is huge for them, so it helps to be confident and comfortable in your own body. They may seem a touch conservative or old fashioned on the surface, but you will find a heavy dose of lustiness underneath. They are loyal and reliable and demand the same from their love. They also deeply, maybe even subconsciously, desire respect from their partners and friends. An acknowledgment somehow of their fierceness.
It would be wise to bow to the Queen.
Venus in Aquarius will be your best friend. The number one thing this cerebral being looks for in a relationship is friendship, because of its inherent equality. They need to be equals with their partner. The cool and aloof free spirit may want to stay removed from the love experience just a bit, and watch from above. They need freedom and autonomy in their relationships so they can explore the world on their own agenda and time-line. They are completely turned off by possessiveness, power trips, games, or double standards. They are on Team Freedom. Shocker.
They are attracted to the unusual and eccentric, and approach love with an open and experimental mind. They need a lot of space to be their own person, and yet simultaneously can be a hopeless romantic. Love is more mental, more of an ideal for them. They will fall for a brilliant mind, or a ridiculous sense of humor. The Free Spirits are the least jealous of all the Venus signs. They are usually happy to give their partner as much freedom as they want for themselves. If you have fallen for this independent spirit, just be their best friend, give them lots of space, and they will make regular visits to you from her home in outer space.
Venus in Pisces is the ultimate romantic. When these delicate dreamers fall in love, they meld completely into their loved ones. If you don't pull them back to earth, they will drift off on the river of love that completely carries them away. They are naturally artistic, sensitive and maybe a little psychic with the ones they love. Imbued with a sweet otherworldly quality, they would do best with a tender soulmate to share their rarified space, a companion who can join them in a flow of shared sensuality or creativity. They are on Team Heart.
You will not find a more compassionate and forgiving partner, but please, no harsh words or pulling away emotionally, or you will confuse and possibly wound their delicate sensibilities. Also, make sure not to take advantage of their kind and generous nature. Material considerations don't necessarily occur to these ethereal folks. Love is a magical journey to them. They don't put any limits on their love. They can fall in love in an instant, and stay in love long after common sense tells them to move on. If you can give yourself completely to them, prepare to travel into deeply emotional and transformative realms beyond the body.